Your wife cannot counter the following 21 charms; they are very effective!
I have tried them. They are the most effective charms to keep your wife attached to you...
1. Listen to her. Any man that listens to his wife has solved 80% of her problems. Most women don't need your solution because they know you can't help them. All they need is a listening ear. Don't even say a word. Just listen with rapt attention. That's all. A simple "It is well" at the end is OK.
2. Respect:
Respect her opinion; never shout even if she makes mistakes; correct her in love.
3. Care/pet: care for her, call her sweet names sincerely; your words and action must agree. If you keep calling her uncomplimentary names, she'll one day become what you've been calling her. "Fine Girl", " Sweetie", "Under-16" are some pet names that can make your wife younger...
4. Discover and cover: Marriage is an institution of forgivers. Anytime you discover your wife's fault and nasty behaviour, you are being examined on maturity! The problem is not what you have discovered. The real problem is what you do with your discovery. Cover her faults. It is not the time to tell your mother, or any other family member about it. If you are religious, pray about the discovery otherwise cover her.
Protect her interest. Protect her from your people and insist they respect her just as you do.
5. Never tell her a lie no matter what. She is the most trusted confidant you should ever have. Never lie to her. Any man that can lie to his wife can equally steal from her. If you can steal from your wife, then you can equally kill her. Tell your wife the truth. She can defend you in your absence.
6. Never reprimand her. That means, never rebuke her openly. Neither in the presence of her parents nor in the presence of her in-laws. Correct her privately. Don't sell her to the public. She's not a public property.
7. Don't impose your ideas on her except it is a direct command from God. Never use God's name to oppress your wife. It is evil. Never manipulate your wife in the name of God. Let her flow with her ideas. She has the right to express her opinions. She is your wife even if her opinions are not OK by you.
8. Pay back every money you borrow from her.
It is a bad thing to borrow money from your wife without paying back. It is an act of irresponsibility. Don't say "after all you benefited from the money as well." That'll be too mean and debasing. You will still need her help tomorrow. How would she trust you?
9. Allow her freedom of association as long as she doesn't bring problems back home from such association. If problems come, defend her interest, and then advise her to review that relationship.
10. Don't disgrace her before your children, people or friends.
11. Importantly, never beat her no matter what. Only men without self-control and emotional stability can raise a hand on their wives.
12. Never lock her out simply because she disobeyed your instructions. Find out why she flouted your instructions, and advise in love
13. Do visit the kitchen once in a while whether you know how to cook or not. Give her a good gist. She won't feel bored and lonely if you are there with her. Cooking becomes fun as you help out. You can "steal"a piece of meat of fish from the tray in her presence. Share it with her. There is no harm if you can't be with her in the kitchen throughout the period; but bump in once in a while and tell her "well done." She will sincerely appreciate it.
14. Take her out. Time is life. The time you spend with your wife swimming and jogging can be very memorable to her. She may hesitate at first, but after the outing (if you made it worth the while), she will ask for more. Give her your time. Women want their man to always be by them. If you are always too busy for her, she could work against anything that takes you from her. You might lose your job or work.
15. Play and pray together whenever possible!
16. If you are invited to a function, don't go alone. Go along with her. Introduce her to friends as your beautiful wife (even if she is ugly, after all you saw her ugliness before you married her. Let that thing that attracted you to her keep the fire of love burning). She loves to be praised in public. Don't rob her of that opportunity to be honoured before those that matter to you in public.
17. Buy her undies! Did I hear you scream? Nothing makes your wife more honoured than going to the market to buy her correct sizes of her undies. Buy the pants. Buy the tights. Buy the brassieres, buy the skirts, buy the camisole, but the pampas... oh, sorry, how do you call it? Yes, buy her menstrual pad! She will surprise you...
18. Help out with the laundry. Don't pack dirty clothes for her to wash as though she were a laundry woman. It is enjoyable if you wash her clothes once in a while. Yes, wash everything! If she washes your clothes, tell her thank you. She deserves it.
19. Don't you ever present her in a bad light to anybody. She is your wife. Speak well of her. Magnify her strength and down play on her weaknesses (after all, you are not perfect, she is even enduring most of you bad habits).
20. Never, never, never compare her to your Ex- or any other woman! She is unique in her own right and will never be like those people. There are many positive attributes that your wife has that those people grossly lack. Magnify her strength.
21. Tell your wife, "I love you." Do it often. Send it on social media: through whats App, Facebook, Twoo, twitter and all. Send it as a text message... Send it to her: I love you, girl!
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